Conversations with my Daughter: an Angel among us

I didn’t expect to have a daughter as a first child. Like most men, I was expecting a baby boy. The news came as a surprise at first but I quickly warmed up to the fact that we were expecting a baby girl.  We didn’t see it then but God had a plan for us right from the beginning. Now, six years later, it is very clear to us what is God’s reason to have Karymar in our lives. She is our Angel; our guardian angel on earth, who is actively watching for us. It became even more clear, as if we needed another reminder, when Ian Karlo was born. Karymar became his guardian angel too. She is more than that though. She is Ian Karlo’s sentinel, nurse and teacher. She also has been our teacher, showing us what love really is in our relationship.

We have seen our daughter grow from the inside out. Karymar is so tuned in on her surroundings and don’t miss a thing. She catches every word we say, every move we make. That was our first lesson: be careful on what we do or say around our children. She knows when we are sad or worried and knows how to soothe our souls. She joins in the celebration when we are happy; I love to see those eyes sparkle bright when she smiles. I like when she rubs by shoulders after I carry her on my shoulders at the park. I love her sayings to everything we talk about. She finds amusing when I talk to her about anything and she remembers old conversations. The funny thing is that she always brings up things like ” but you said this” when we are doing the opposite or reminds me when I am distracted on the phone or forgot to put my seat belt on. Her comments sometimes are the kind that make you stop in your tracks and just laugh about it or give it a lot of thought.  I find it very special when I am on long trips and she calls me to talk to her and sing a lullaby before bedtime. Often times we chat online and I laugh hard when she ask me ” Are we going to Skype or Tango Papi?”

Karymar is in first grade now and loves school. Always  has a story to tell from school, her classmates and the school bus ride. The tooth fairy came twice this year. She was very brave pulling her tooth out when it was ready to come out. She has a gift of art, making beautiful drawings and paintings. She read and writes very good too. I keep all her drawings and writings on a binder and ask her to write the date on it for posterity. Everywhere she goes, she carries her bag with toys, her notebooks and pencil and crayons. Always busy creating things. She loves to play instruments; I have my guitars, harmonicas and hand drums at the ready when we just want to have fun playing music. I bought her first guitar and she likes to play the piano and the drums.  Kary is also a great swimmer. Recently,  we had her taking synchronize swimming lessons. She is a fish in the water, a natural.  She is learning to ride her bicycle; I’ve already taken the training wheels off. Soon she will take off and never look back. One of the mot cherished moments is when Karymar ask me to take her on ride on my motorcycle. She is not old enough to take it out on the road but I take her on a short ride around the neighborhood. She brightens up when she puts her helmet and prepares for her ride with papi. She is a trill seeker and loves to go to the theme parks. Once I took Kary to Universal Studios Island of Adventure theme park.   She was having so much fun, running and jumping. She loves Jurassic Park ride to the point of calling out the suspense moments. She almost spoiled the surprise factor to the other riders. She knew when she was going to get wet and pull her hoodie up. What I liked the most is how she tells me to hold her tightly when the big T-REX shows up just before the drop. We went to rides two and three times in a row. In the Harry Potter coaster she wants to go with her arms up. She loves to ride roller coasters. I didn’t say no to anything she asked for. She was behaving very well and bringing her running stroller was an outstanding plus. We spent about 4 hours of non-stop fun. Great memories.

I didn’t think children can be so tuned in on things, like the simple things in life. We, as grown ups, are tuned out or way off the mark when it comes to these things. We see life disguised as problems, work and paying the bills. Children however, their care free innocence allows them to see life as it really is.  Why can’t we be more like them? What is this thing about being a grown up? Well, Karymar has shown us the way to be happy and enjoy life now, as it happens.We just got to do this simple thing, that is to take care of them in return. They are our highest priority and everything else comes second. The world is not going to end if we don’t do X,Y and Z right away. Children don’t see “time” like we do. In fact, they don’t know what time is, or how much time is to do this or when we will do X, Y and Z. What they do know is how to live in the moment, in the NOW and that is a great lesson to learn.

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